For the LOVE .....of......

After spending a wonderful turkey day in Detroit, I made the attempt to head back to Virginia earlier than normal, BUT those attempts were foiled and failed

The last two hours of the drive were filled with projectile vomit and excess traffic...

arghhh....

by the time I reached Ashburn, my spirit was a little downtrodden and I could not wait to exit the vehicle

I placed an emergency call to my CPP and uttered the words "Bring the disaster towels"...

as i pulled on Litchfield, he approached the car and the vomit ball in the back and the situation was neutralized

to think Grampy had just cleaned out that seat earlier that day-HA

but we had a wonderful holiday so many thoughts, so many emotions

the joy and thanksgiving of being with family

turkey day jord-josh-ray and i went to the game and that was definitely a good time

it was a new adventure and the company was just good and honestly just watching josh & jord brings

such happiness to my heart...Kellee has always been their #1 fan but now after really paying attention to them.... i too am on board

they laugh, they argue, they hug, they smile, he teaches, she learns, they are so much alike, its incredible

Jord and Gigi are a whole other dynamic....the adoration and excitement and as Uncle Corey described the pom-pom sweat factory-Jord looks forward to and thrives on Gigi's craftiness and creativity and it feeds her and then she returns to the Terrace expecting the same -(ha that is always a slight let down-but im working on it)

Grampy and Jord--all i can say is when she came up from the basement with Grampy's drill..... speechless!!!

My trip culminated with a very quick ..twitter like visit with the bestie...we laughed because now that we are Moms of littles..our conversation style has changed SO drastically..long gone are the days of long uninterrupted conversations...i'm sure if we had the Gigi's watch the girls we could have that but generally we get the majority of our talking done via text or email

and i think we are both comfortable and ok and operating in grace of where we are and the strength of our relationship....I am soooo THANKFUL for you KSN :)

My holiday was extra special because of a reunion the week before, an unplanned, yet ever so easy return and re-opening of a door that was not fully closed, but more left ajar
so my holiday had a little aspect of 3 times is the charm

I used to prescribe to the once a door is closed , do not re-open, do not rehash, but there is ONE individual who has defied my rule and made me eat my words

This guy and I have history and lately i've realized history, especially when the history is SO GOOD, is not something to take lightly

My Dad is quick to share wisdom and yes 85.5% of the time I listen, but this weekend we talked more and we talked about THIS GUY and my Dad gave me a lot to think about

I came to some conclusions.....a few are...

Love is not necessarily easy

Love WILL and DOES fight and if it doesn't maybe its not LOVE

LOVE does not give up

LOVE is not a dime a dozen

LOVE is forgiving ..and accepting

LOVE is soooo very powerful

*Love-y is currently putting bandaids on her hand on my floor, I'm counting 4 empty wrappers

LOVE is everything

and I am thankful for that kind of LOVE

so today's blog is all about the LOVE ..of...

FAMILY
FORGIVENESS
FUN
FOOD
FUTURE

Momentary Lapse of Good Judgment ...

I like my sleep
everyone who knows me knows that


I love a good nap


I took full advantage of having a child and taking naps when she napped
I love that even now at 5 she still can be forced and coerced into a nap


although let me caveat and say someone else who loves a good nap and can do it anytime and anywhere at the expense of those around him ......JOSHUA***


so last night for a moment, well several and then several more I somehow lost my mind and stayed up far past my regular bedtime (which per my Mom is early) but then it became normal adult late and then it became I don't have a job late




and here is what I learned...


when you are under 30 the concept of sleep is DIFFERENT and more FLUID and CONCEPTUALIZED


when you are an auntie or uncle with no kids...the same fact applies


There is something about becoming a parent or OVER 30 that makes sleep a coveted thing like the Willy Wonka Golden Ticket


Admittedly- I brought the staying up late for the sake of laughter and love on my own self


There was no bribery, no twisting of the arm, not even any negotiations


and yet at 130am when even me and my fuzzy math could calculate 3.5 hours of sleep


I kept smiling , I kept laughing..I kept talking...


but now......


Im sleepy


I am going to drive home with no heat on in my car..


I am leaving work at 4


I am getting in bed with Jordan tonight..no judgment


My body aches


I won't ever do this again....














well just not tonight :)

beef & broccoli

let me tell you how the perfect pre-Friday is going
*taxpayers be warned, I am currently modeling the picture of inefficiency BUT this time its not deliberate


I have been having issues with my work computers ever since I changed my name..and for over 5 weeks things have worked intermittently ..and finally they realized why


so IT is syncing my accounts which has rendered me useless


I CANNOT log in!!!


So how perfect is it that I have a free day to smoke and joke justifiably


I honestly felt bad around 1130 and went down to the IT office to check on the status of things JUST IN CASE


and guess what it's not ready sooo....


I guess I stay surfing the net and see what it looks like at the end of the internet


just kidding I have Kellee to keep me entertained


I must admit I may have to leave work early..its one thing to come in and slack off but have to refocus every once in awhile but


I am limited right now to just sitting here


and now I may be bored


hmmm ok












I just saw the news and my boss -DNI Clapper is resigning ...


guess he didn't vote for Trump either


I wonder who the new Director will be and will I still get 3 hour early releases on the day before the holiday


It would be a shame if we did not


ok this was a crappy 3 days Post Monday blog


hehehehe

And this too shall pass...but until it does

One of my smartest and highly treasured and loved counselors shared this with me today... It was so profound and fits into today's narrative that I am sharing it..and encourage you to share it as well..




Ali Michael, Ph.D. Teacher educator, consultant, writer, filmmaker


What should I say to my students after the election if Trump wins?” a principal asked me recently. Good question. What should we tell our children?
Tell them, first, that we will protect them. Tell them that we have democratic processes in the U.S. that make it impossible for one mean person to do too much damage. Tell them that we will protect those democratic processes ― and we will use them ― so that Trump is unable to act on many of the false promises he made during his campaign.
Tell them, second, that you will honor the outcome of the election, but that you will fight bigotry. Tell them bigotry is not a democratic value, and that it will not be tolerated at your school. Tell them you stand by your Muslim families. Your same-sex parent families. Your gay students. Your Black families. Your female students. Your Mexican families. Your disabled students. Your immigrant families. Your trans students. Your Native students. Tell them you won’t let anyone hurt them or deport them or threaten them without having to contend with you first. Say that you will stand united as a school community, and that you will protect one another. Say that silence is dangerous, and teach them how to speak up when something is wrong. Then teach them how to speak up, how to love one another, how to understand each other, how to solve conflicts, how to live with diverse and sometimes conflicting ideologies, and give them the skills to enter a world that doesn’t know how to do this.

Tell them bigotry is not a democratic value, and that it will not be tolerated at your school.

Teach them, third, how to be responsible members of a civic society. Teach them how to engage in discussion—not for the sake of winning, but for the sake of understanding and being understood. Students need to learn how to check facts, to weigh news sources, to question taken-for-granted assumptions, to see their own biases, to take feedback, to challenge one another. We need to teach students how to disagree—with love and respect. These skills will be priceless in the coming months and years as we work to build a democratic society that protects the rights of all people ― regardless of the cooperation or resistance those efforts face from the executive branch.

Say that silence is dangerous, and teach them how to speak up when something is wrong.

Finally, remind them ― to ease their minds ― that not everyone who voted for Donald Trump did so because they believe the bigoted things that he has said this year. Many of them voted for him because they feel frustrated with the economy, they feel socially left behind, and they are exercising the one power they have. We need to challenge Trump and his supporters to differentiate between their fears and the bigotry catalyzed by those fears.
In the aftermath of this traumatic election, I hesitate to even exercise my voice in this way. In the past year, I received hate mail and a death threat from white supremacists for blog posts like this ― blog posts that are, let’s be honest, fairly insignificant expressions of personal opinion from a person with very little power. I am not a threat. And yet people have threatened me ― and my family ― for expressing my view that we should build a world in which all human beings can live freely in the wholeness of their identities. I fear that this kind of intimidation will only increase in the event of a Trump victory. I fear that it will worsen tomorrow ― as soon as I hit send ― if Trump supporters are emboldened in their aggression towards people with whom they disagree. And yet the only thing that makes me feel safe in this moment ― as I stare into the face of a possible of a Trump victory ― is to speak up and speak out, and to invite others to do the same.

what happens tomorrow...

So today is the BIG election


there has been so much hoopla


there has been hate


there has been unity


now we are in the countdown


the homestretch


the last hours until the decision is made


there has been indescribable build up


but my thought today is


what happens tomorrow


this 2016 election has been one unlike any others


this campaigning has changed for the worst the way politics is viewed


it has changed the way Americans feel


this election has brought out the good


but more of the bad


America was struggling before the election


This great country has a history built on division and hate and separatism


for years some Americans have tried to grow, some have tried to heal


others have turned the blind eye


others have quieted their hate


this election ripped the bandaid back off


this election put the conversation back into the current initiative


and so I wonder tomorrow after the new President is elected

then what...


some will cry foul


many will grumble and everyone will have an opinion


but then what


will America be great again


what does that look like


does "great" mean a place where all are welcome and all are embraced


does "great" mean the division between the various classes becomes more evident


does "great" mean having a leader who is compassionate to the people


does "great" mean a leader who runs the country like a business , devoid of emotion and empathy


I don't have the answer to any of that


but I do know


tomorrow will come


tomorrow either another Clinton or a Trump will be elected


life will go on


changes will be made


and the one good thing to come out of tomorrow is that...


campaigning will end


and the next narrative will begin

Not sure what to write about today


but I am here at work super duper early and I have a window of time where there is NO ONE here and I can listen to the quiet hum of the ventilation and write


I could discuss how dating in 2016 really is for the birds


I could whine about how dating used to be so easy for me and now its best described as "challenging"


One in my position might express dissatisfaction in being seemingly sidelined for awhile in the relationship game


Outside looking in I get remarks like "Any guy would be lucky to have you" or "You can get any guy" or *my favorite most inaccurate line* "if I looked like you-I would have a long line of guys"


Or I get the advice when you don't look, you will find..


Can I just say...I do NOT like getting relationship advice from people in relationships or married people,


it's like someone who is sitting at a table with a fat steak telling someone who is hungry don't worry they will eat eventually and it will be good


BUT at the same time you don't want to pal around with a bunch of other single folks who are b*tching and moaning


where is the balance!!!!


arghh!!!!!!!


Ok moving on, it's Monday, its Halloween, I was the official fun police parent an got pretzels to hand out instead of candy because well, I think deep down I am rallying for those parents whose kids have had a cavity or the parent who looks at the bucket of refined artificial sugars and inwardly cringes !!!


I got into the office at 5:08am (woooo let's never do this again) although I did get some decent sleep last night so my coffee won't be SUPER grande when Dunkin opens up .....
BUT... that early arrival means early DEPARTURE and back home to "the Ladies"


My Mom is still here and as always the trip is never long enough and I am already dreading tomorrow when she has to return...and worse than me will be Jord..arghhhh


At least she's not leaving on a Monday-that would certainly make for a LONG week!!!


Soooo that's all I got for a blog ...

Mommy Daughter Duo

I asked my sidekick what I should write about and she said write about her and I

So hmmm me and Jord

As I sit here and watch her eat soul rolls from Urban BBQ and watch Bubble Guppies Halloween special with her hair down i cant help but think how much I love this little character

and when I look at her in astonishment that she is mine (well Gods-but I get to be her Mom) and I am HER Mom i feel so grateful

Everyday is an adventure with her, some days are filled with laughter and absolute joy

and  being honest some days are frustrating and maybe some tears and raised voices

but on today, a monday the start to my week, im looking at my beautiful daughter and i think i am SUPER proud of our dynamic duo


I love our bond, I love our relationship, I love our fun, I love our affection, I love our discussions, and all the moments in between

I learned how to be a Mom not because it was innate but because I had such an amazing example

while i think the teenage years I may have tested my Moms love and prayer life but i think about the bigger picture stuff (lets disregard those years of opposition)

i think about my Moms creativity that she now shares with my me

My mom made everything special from our allowance envelopes with the balloons and fancy writing on it to adventures that she took us on

No matter the situation, if my Mom was behind it, there was always a touch of special and a whole lot of love involved

I thank you Mom for being my Mom and for being Jordan's Gigi

i see a lot of your creativity and love in her and I love how she would im sure say that you guys are a dynamic duo too

i cannot thank you enough

i cannot tell you how my heart swells at the thought of how much you love me and have sacrificed for me

not to take away from Dads but there is a undeniable bond after you carry a child in your tummy for 9 months.....

so to the ORIGINAL dynamic Duo --My MOM and I!! Happy Monday Mom!!!