Hump Day-Humor

#1-I would like to thank my little nugget aka Jordan Lee for the 1am wake up and then followed by the laughter and playing and then it turned to cuddling and putting her feet up on me and for the next hour or so she laughed and nestled herself in my arm…when I finally got her settled back down..the 4 legged monster woke up and stood up and did a thorough shaking waking the nugget out of her milk stupor and I had to start over…BUT despite that I would not trade my mini me for the world and even though my alarm clock goes off at 5:40am –moments with her are PRICELESS and I don’t mind them at all!

 

#2 *and yes these are in a random order* It is NOT okay to have the entire back of your window covered in those sun tinting schemes such as the one I saw this morning…a whole pack of coyotes and snow scene things…I would also like to extend this rule and I know it generalizes against a certain group BUT no flags across your entire back window PLEASE!

 

#3-So yesterday we had Latin Tuesday at work (YES my idea) so being the greedy that I am-I thoroughly enjoyed and over did it..I’m talking Thanksgiving Day overload…If there was ever a possibility to overdose on food..yesterday would have been my day

I was so sick..when I went to bed last night at 8pm (from a hurting tummy) I was still full and sick…..4 words….REFRIED BEANS WITH BACON!

 

So I’m curious for the males that might read this ..I want to talk about “effort” for a second….From what I have observed some males don’t seem to appreciate or they don’t communicate it when a woman does little things…for example when you first meet a women and she always seems so well put together..manicure pedicures and hair always done….but then fast forward say 9 months to a year and she doesn’t seem to receive those same compliments from you that she did before…why is that? The funny part is that the moment she stops you DO notice and make comments

 

When I shave my legs everyday for example it’s all gravy but yet if I didn’t that’s when a male not specifically talking about RDC..but just speaking males in general would notice..

Is it hard to make sure you appreciate someone and all the little things

 

Okay you know what I can’t finish my blog and my fun thoughts because the same person from last week who was “clearing” their throat on the other side of my desk..I think he just hacked up the entire family of green guys from that nasal commercial..I won’t say the B word BUT he keeps making that NASTY noise and its GROSS

 

 

 

 

 

 

april janelle

"Let go of the things you fear to lose. Die to your attachments. Free yourself from everything you think you are and embrace the truth that you are abundant, eternal, fearless and worth being loved."

 

- Jackson Kiddard, author and polymath.

 

 

Dating vs. Marriage

Greetings!

*Let me first put out a DISCLAIMER that my blog is MERELY my opinion..it’s what the hell I think or know and there is no PhD behind my name and I do not proclaim to know it all.. I know stuff based on MY personal experiences, my friends experiences, and sometimes I use some of my friend’s friends experiences…But once again it’s MY blog so let’s get that straight*

 

 

So a wise man told me something years ago and this is an ongoing debate conversation ..When you are dating you do things because you WANT to versus being married and doing things because you HAVE to

 

I wanted to argue and I believe we did over and over but something clicked and something makes sense

 

Dating-when you are dating certain behavior is curbed…i.e..when you are dating bodily functions are often suppressed…when you are MARRIED..they slip..they become prevalent

 

When you are dating..you have the patience of a Mother Theresa…when you are married..your fuse is short and quick

 

In the world of dating…you always look sharp..you are an avid gym rat..a permanent fixture at the salon for waxing and nails and hair….MARRIED…all of a sudden the line “the good and the bad” is spoken

 

Dating you sneak in time all the time every time…Married you take for granted time

 

Dating-you kiss until your lips are sore and you are out of break…Married..a quick peck with half the passion

*they say a couple that stops kissing is heading to their end* *when I say “THEY” it was in a marital book-it could have been a quote or a line-not really sure*

 

Dating-you stay up all night talking and laughing and sharing your dreams…Marriage you go to bed and try to get sleep

 

The differences and changes are not so subtle and the list can go on and on and once again I say * THIS IS NOT ALL MARRIAGE OR DATING SITUATIONS*

 

I sit and think now however should it NOT be the opposite…When you are married it is FOREVER *In theory pending crazy or unfortunate circumstances*

 

So if you will have the same players in the show from this day forth should that not be the motivation to do MORE than you did when you were dating…Shouldn’t marriage be the motivator to be even MORE spontaneous…shouldn’t you kiss more..talk sweeter..share more dreams and lay out the groundwork to achieve those dreams

 

Shouldn’t you do things to make that person feel secure everyday…When you were dating you flirted and often were less than shy about your intentions…are you the same why today? if no..WHY NOT!

 

You can’t sell someone an Audi V8 with a 4 cylinder so why would you sell yourself any differently

 

If you were the old school Keith Sweat Brian McKnight H Town Shai LSG lover than guess what keep it up step it up..don’t downgrade

 

Don’t stop being romantic..don’t stop trying….keep on loving..keep on growing…In my theory the better you get to know someone the MORE comfortable you become which opens up more doors and more opportunities to put a smile on their face or keep that fire going…

 

If you wouldn’t slack off on your job then why slack off in the MOST important relationships we have

 

There is a certain energy and excitement and high that comes along with meeting someone new and falling in love……have you ever listened to a album (a love album) and the entire album make you smile and made you think “I feel that way too” and you can’t help but SMILE

 

Keep working at that for your marriage…Keep it spicy- keep that person smiling glowing and loving you more and more each day

 

 

*So I try to keep my blogs neutral in the religion department-all of my readers are not religious or don’t follow what I follow and everyone’s walk is different..so I won’t infer or push that information…my blogs are fun and light hearted J *

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

april janelle

"Let go of the things you fear to lose. Die to your attachments. Free yourself from everything you think you are and embrace the truth that you are abundant, eternal, fearless and worth being loved."

 

- Jackson Kiddard, author and polymath.

 

 

Soapbox for a second-FOOD for thought!

SO I READ THIS AND I COULD NOT NOT SHARE…IT’S SO TRUE AND SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT FROM A RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE STANDPOINT

 

I used to be such a starry-eyed believer of love. I thought that love conquered all - and that as long as you shared that feeling with someone, it meant that the relationship would last. In the theory of fairytales and movies, this may be the case, but in North American reality - not quite. Instead, love is only one of the many ingredients needed for a long-lasting partnership. But the concerning issue is - people put so much weight on the feeling of love, a feeling that inevitably changes, takes different forms and can get blinded easily.

A partnership is not just about the emotions and feelings of love. A partnership is about commitment, and being responsible to that commitment regardless of what the external variables of the time are. It's about the commitment to choosing decisions that will serve the relationship even when it would "feel" better to not. Married or not married, when you decide to enter into a partnership with another, commitment means you act with integrity, respect and care -even when your emotions are telling you otherwise.

Because love isn't enough. Let me clarify, love, in the way most of us define it, isn't enough. Love isn't what makes you decide to not act out your desires when someone attractive starts showing you attention (and you haven't had sex in months). Love is not what makes you apologize and give your partner a hug after an argument (even though inside you know you're 100% right). Love is not what makes you weather the storm when disaster strikes (which it will). Love is not what makes you decide to treat each other with kindness, respect and empathy during a breakup or divorce (you'd be surprised how quickly love can feel like hate at that time). No, it's not love. It's commitment. It's the responsibility to keeping your commitment. Not just to the other person, but to yourself.

Love, and that giddy feeling in your stomach may be what guides you when you're feeling great about the apple of your eye. But what steers you when you're going through an ebb, or a rough patch? Can you depend on love at that point?

Love isn't rational. It can't be controlled. If you allow a feeling that is so emotional and malleable to dictate your behavior, you'll realize quickly that it only pans out when things are up, not when they're down. Commitment on the other hand, will guide you through both. Commitment is not dependant on the heartstrings, it's dependant on a conscious choice you make - and that, is something you have complete control over.

Amy Chan

 

 

april janelle

"Let go of the things you fear to lose. Die to your attachments. Free yourself from everything you think you are and embrace the truth that you are abundant, eternal, fearless and worth being loved."

 

- Jackson Kiddard, author and polymath.

 

 

random funny musings

Yesterday was my first day back to the gym-New Baby New body 2012…or something like that….

 

So I get downstairs and put on my gym clothes..one small caveat….my sports bra’s are still in my pre baby pre nursing size……..Can you say INAPPROPRIATE I put a top on BUT still I had the “ boob bubble” ! I thought that would excite me but at work NOT SO MUCH!!

 

Cream of Wheat-you know the wheat cereal you ate as a kid..WELL-they have a new flavor-CINABON and let’s just say I had a two for one coupon *yes I have been clipping coupons-in a NORMAL-not obsessive way* so I brought it and I LOVE IT!

 

The guy on the other side of my cube is getting over a cold and keeps clearing his throat BUT it’s that nasty first thing in the morning hacking one! Disgusting !

 

Listening to Erykah Badu…something about her songs make me think of summer time and the warm sun kissing my skin

 

Wow-now JOE-All the things your man won’t do..man I can’t believe how OLD this song is.

 

Is it bad that I am looking forward to my lunch? I love when I cook or have something homemade and I can’t wait to eat it..So I defrosted some of my whipped sweet potatoes and then the brisket I made the other day-lunch is looking to be pretty promising

 

Today’s eating has been swell..oatmeal with craisins ..so far 32 ounces of water..a few pretzels…..and my afternoon snack is yogurt and I have some butter free popcorn!!!

 

I was going to climb on my soap box and say something about the new year and how this year we need to all be more forgiving of ourselves and say yes more than we say no and spend more time with those that mean something to us …….but hey it’s a new year…just do what you want…whether that is something new or what you did last year

 

 

 

april janelle

"Let go of the things you fear to lose. Die to your attachments. Free yourself from everything you think you are and embrace the truth that you are abundant, eternal, fearless and worth being loved."

 

- Jackson Kiddard, author and polymath.

 

 

Sentimental moment

There is something so very humbling about passing by Arlington Cemetery -it doesn't matter how many times I drive past ..one look over at all the white tombstones just makes me pause and melancholy to know the many many lives that have be given for my behalf and for my liberties and safety
Today while passing there were wreaths on each headstone and I am sure each one was laid with the utmost respect and even though it could seem like a tedious long task -i would think each one would just be a reminder
I have military in my family and everyone joins for their own reasons but those that lost their lives lost them all the same (in the sense that they lost their live no mater why they joined)
I appreciate my military and I am thankful everyday for those that take the jobs that no one else takes
For those that run in when everyone else runs out
Thank you
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