Hehhe so apparently I sent out a blank blog..MY Bad I was still writing!!
Every so often I hear a song and it really moves me and i connect with it.. but while listening to my WGTS 91.9 I heard this song entitled BROKEN TOGETHER and I thought "Wow-I got it"
I added the lyrics to the bottom as well as the songwriters interpretation, but as i heard it -the song was truly a Eureka moment for me.
So often when we go into relationships we have this idea of becoming whole..we have this understanding that our spouse will be our other half and that together we will become this more complete person..
I think its idealistic and fairytale-ish but this song nails it on the head.
As an adult when you enter into a relationship you bring all the pieces of who you are, you bring all of your jadedness, all of your preconceived notions, all of your failures, all of your hurt, all of your anger..its normal..its human...to say that you can check any of those elements at the door is impossible..
I think about my past, i think about the choices i have made, i think about choices that may not have been my top pick today
when two people become one, there is the idea (sometimes) that life will become perfect that somehow everything that happened before won't matter because you are now with your spouse..
we go into marriage with unreasonable expectations and as my Dad often tells me we cannot expect of others what we expect of ourselves because that is the definition of disappointment
and yet we do..we expect our spouse to read our mind, we expect our spouse to guess what we want and what we need at every moment
we expect perfection and our spouse is just human and just as human as us
think about your deepest darkest secret.....and with your spouse they have to know that..and that leaves you vulnerable...BUT love true love will be there undoubtedly no matter what ...
secrets come to light..and after the storm..true love should remain
as a spouse your job is not to change but to love, in loving someone that does not mean trying to fix them but loving them
they say that the first few years of marriage are the hardest and i think about what is going on during that times..well generally its the adjustment period..its seeing that person in the morning, late at night, when they are sick, when they are sad, when they are pissed...you are seeing that person completely
before when you had space and a the lack of accountability when times got rough or when the mood shifted and was more dark than sunny you could flee or ignore a call but when you are married and together you have to figure out what works for you both in order to get through it
i think this song speaks to loving someone for WHO and WHAT they are and not for what you want them to be
i think this song speaks to looking at your spouse or partner (if you are not married) and loving them flaws and all and saying I ACCEPT you and you accept me
it is loving their ugly and them loving yours and you guys just being two imperfect humans together
can you imagine if there ever was a PERFECT person or a PERFECT relationship
that would be incredibly draining and stressful...but since that is none of us and certainly not me
all i can offer to my other half is a truly FLAWED but loving woman
all i can offer is someone who has made mistakes and will make mistakes but who will love you and stand by you
i can't fix every problem but i will be by your side and we can figure it out together
instead of spending a lifetime trying to make changes lets just embrace our differences and acknowledging and respecting our weaknesses and playing up the strengths
and of course through time and love we can help mend some of the past hurt and disappointment and be the example of love that we were always looking for
sooo let's be Broken Together
Writers interpretation: ‘Can you lay down who you thought I was and love the ‘me’ that is? Can we take this from where we are now and realize that I can’t be that person?
Lyrics:
What do you think about when you look at me
I know were not the fairytale you dreamed wed be
You wore the veil, you walked the aisle, you took my hand
And we dove into a mystery
How I wish we could go back to simpler times
Before all our scars and all our secrets were in the light
Now on this hallowed ground, weve drawn the battle lines
Will we make it through the night
Its going to take much more than promises this time
Only God can change our minds
Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just be broken together
If you can bring your shattered dreams and Ill bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us
The only way we'll last forever is broken together
How it must have been so lonely by my side
We were building kingdoms and chasing dreams and left love behind
Im praying God will help our broken hearts align
And we wont give up the fight
