Not my words, but words we can never hear enough
I hope this is something I continue to work at and work on....
Choose Your Words
When unkind words are spoken about you or behind your back, they might trigger an impulse to respond with negative remarks. But you have a choice about the kind of words you speak. If you desire to walk closely with the Lord today, you will make the choice to keep your words and your thoughts clear of spite, falseness, or anger. Gossip is definitely not an option. Proverbs 25:11 sets the standard: "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver." You can speak, or not speak. You can destroy or build with your words. You can spread hatred or love. You can discourage or encourage. Scream or speak softly. Begin by making the choice to not speak evil of one another. We're to be peaceable and considerate and show true humility toward all. A loving word heals and blesses. Consider who you want to bless today with loving and lovely words.
Monday, June 22, 2015
Wednesday, June 3, 2015
Who am I ...REALLY
I promised my bestie a blog earlier this week and unfortunately work kept me busy and my days were busier than i anticipated so now 3 days later i am going to attempt to muster a blog out of the topic and inspiration that hit me on Monday...it may be a fail...maybe
as we as a culture dive into this idea of being authentic and being true to ourselves etc etc i think there is a sharp contrast with the surge and predominant ideology of commercialism and imagery
there is a fine line between what we deem the woman who is comfortable in herself and owning it vs the woman who lives up to the standard of society
when i think about what my authentic self looks like and what i see in the mirror versus what someone off the street making a 5 minute assessment might see...i am pretty sure they are not the same
all of us are as Shrek says onions with layers and multi-faceted but as a society we often only see the right there in front of you..we see the what our experiences have taught us to see, we see what our prejudices and insecurities see, so often what we see is not what is
i have been grappling with the concept of "mean girls" lately in my life and while this used to be a isolated "sweet valley high" concept this has now morphed into an adult catty women phenomenon as well
there are now shows like Real Housewives of...(insert a city) that sensationalize and capitalize on the drama and conflict between women over the most superficial and unreal things
it saddens me because that has become the norm in our society, not just in our schools, but in our workplaces, in our communities, amongst "friends", anywhere that more than 10 or so gathered there is some level of superficial unauthentic unhealthy conflict going on
as someone who has been there but now likes to think i have learned the errors of my ways and participation in gossip and group thought -what i have learned is how even in adults there is the need and fear of competition
there is the fear of someone being prettier
there is the fear of someone getting what we perceive as "ours"
and at the root of all of that is insecurity
we all have insecurities we all have our deep dark fears and secrets
but why is it that instead of encouraging and supporting others we exploit them and tear them down
we know our vulnerabilities and yet we masquerade around as if our lives are perfect and without flaw in the first
why can we so easily view others as perfect or having the charmed life when we know the struggles we face
how can we think others are not struggling with the same issues that we are and give them some GRACE and understanding
We are quick to judge and slow to understand but what if and when the roles are reversed
when i say who am i really --i think of some of the preconceived notions or quick judgements people make about me
i hear all the time- i wish i were your height-WHY !!!! just like being short is not the answer to world hunger neither is being tall..do i like my height ??i do now as an adult but its just who i am but it was awkward as a kid growing up being WAY taller than everyone and being super thin and people asking if i eat or people constantly joking about my size...and no its not a cry me a river but there are two sides to everything if not more
i hear oh man you're thin you can eat whatever you want-NO i cant eat whatever i want... .what people dont know is that i have a hormone imbalance that mimics type 2 diabetes soo when i choose to pass on food its not because i am trying to maintain my undisclosed size its because i am trying to stay on top of my health and not require medication for my lifetime
we all have different values and view life through our lenses....its easy to look to other for comparison whether to make ourselves feel better or worst
but the bottom line is we are all human and lack perfection
we need to better about not judging too quickly or too harshly if you are not in someone's shoes
if you have not been in that situation you can't say "what you would do" and even if you have you still are NOT that person and we all react and respond differently
while i think the plan on Monday was to write about who i see myself as when i look in the mirror the script changed just a bit based on life between Monday and Wednesday
i like the edited golden rule that says treat others the way they want to be treated
its nice to treat people how u would want to be treated but i think u need to treat others better
go the extra mile for the people in your life, i bet you will never regret it
as we as a culture dive into this idea of being authentic and being true to ourselves etc etc i think there is a sharp contrast with the surge and predominant ideology of commercialism and imagery
there is a fine line between what we deem the woman who is comfortable in herself and owning it vs the woman who lives up to the standard of society
when i think about what my authentic self looks like and what i see in the mirror versus what someone off the street making a 5 minute assessment might see...i am pretty sure they are not the same
all of us are as Shrek says onions with layers and multi-faceted but as a society we often only see the right there in front of you..we see the what our experiences have taught us to see, we see what our prejudices and insecurities see, so often what we see is not what is
i have been grappling with the concept of "mean girls" lately in my life and while this used to be a isolated "sweet valley high" concept this has now morphed into an adult catty women phenomenon as well
there are now shows like Real Housewives of...(insert a city) that sensationalize and capitalize on the drama and conflict between women over the most superficial and unreal things
it saddens me because that has become the norm in our society, not just in our schools, but in our workplaces, in our communities, amongst "friends", anywhere that more than 10 or so gathered there is some level of superficial unauthentic unhealthy conflict going on
as someone who has been there but now likes to think i have learned the errors of my ways and participation in gossip and group thought -what i have learned is how even in adults there is the need and fear of competition
there is the fear of someone being prettier
there is the fear of someone getting what we perceive as "ours"
and at the root of all of that is insecurity
we all have insecurities we all have our deep dark fears and secrets
but why is it that instead of encouraging and supporting others we exploit them and tear them down
we know our vulnerabilities and yet we masquerade around as if our lives are perfect and without flaw in the first
why can we so easily view others as perfect or having the charmed life when we know the struggles we face
how can we think others are not struggling with the same issues that we are and give them some GRACE and understanding
We are quick to judge and slow to understand but what if and when the roles are reversed
when i say who am i really --i think of some of the preconceived notions or quick judgements people make about me
i hear all the time- i wish i were your height-WHY !!!! just like being short is not the answer to world hunger neither is being tall..do i like my height ??i do now as an adult but its just who i am but it was awkward as a kid growing up being WAY taller than everyone and being super thin and people asking if i eat or people constantly joking about my size...and no its not a cry me a river but there are two sides to everything if not more
i hear oh man you're thin you can eat whatever you want-NO i cant eat whatever i want... .what people dont know is that i have a hormone imbalance that mimics type 2 diabetes soo when i choose to pass on food its not because i am trying to maintain my undisclosed size its because i am trying to stay on top of my health and not require medication for my lifetime
we all have different values and view life through our lenses....its easy to look to other for comparison whether to make ourselves feel better or worst
but the bottom line is we are all human and lack perfection
we need to better about not judging too quickly or too harshly if you are not in someone's shoes
if you have not been in that situation you can't say "what you would do" and even if you have you still are NOT that person and we all react and respond differently
while i think the plan on Monday was to write about who i see myself as when i look in the mirror the script changed just a bit based on life between Monday and Wednesday
i like the edited golden rule that says treat others the way they want to be treated
its nice to treat people how u would want to be treated but i think u need to treat others better
go the extra mile for the people in your life, i bet you will never regret it
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