well spring is upon us and you know what that means
nope not Easter
not almost summer and beautiful weather
BUT the season of WEDDINGS
sabrina this rant is for you
little girls grow up dreaming of their fairytale day
society capitalizes on the vision that they have had since the time they get their first boyfriend
the sparkly ring, the white dress, the reception that rivals every other
little girls are pre-wired for HAPPILY EVER AFTER
or at least everything that leads up to the alter and that day....probably not the day after BUT the day
oh yes every girl (and let me caveat and say there are probably a small 1% that do not for some reason but the majority DO)
in 2014 I believe my theory is still correct..spend 2 minutes on Pinterest and the site is littered with wedding rings and dresses and shoes and decorations and bridesmaids stuff and stuff and stuff
I am starting to wonder and not because i am a cynic or jaded person who is wife 2.0
and maybe because i am not 22 and starry eyed but 32 with a child and who therefore would not be rocking a white dress
BUT i wonder if weddings NOT MARRIAGE but weddings have become another overly commercialized part of society just like Valentine's Day and Christmas
There used to be and there still is to an extent MEANING behind marriage
it used to be focused on the joining of two lives the cleaving of two families
it was a celebration
it was the beginning of a BEAUTIFUL journey
many many many moons ago-weddings were simple-it was just the exchange of two simple bands
now it has morphed into how many CARATS are on your finger
the dresses that were once simple and sometimes even the passing on of a dress from mother to daughter-those days are ancient
With shows such as SAY YES TO THE DRESS the industry has morphed into extravagance versus tasteful and modest
Women will pour thousands and thousands of dollars into a dress and by all means if that is your lifestyle so be it
admittedly my first wedding I went big
most people have the sentiment I am only doing it once
and that is great but sometimes it doesn't pan out that way
there is a designer who's dressed start generally around 25k...wow what message does that send
if you have the money like that...i mean actually have the money not a mountain of debt then im sure you can justify that but if you are planning some event just to KEEP UP WITH WHOMEVER
why do you feel the need?
is it society?
does anyone have a modest wedding anymore
a wedding is $$$ costly and i understand its a CELEBRATION but my gosh
i realize its a matter of personal opinion and so many other variables BUT as I watch my other half prepare for her wedding and I said wedding not nuptials i can see from Virginia the mini calculator in her head keeping a tally of what this is really costing
does a expensive wedding equal a better marriage NO
do the guests have a good time..... PROBABLY but not guaranteed
do they sit and wonder how much you spent...usually
at the end of the day are the guests in your marriage NOPE
they may be in the far extended sense of family
but the marriage is between two
so what are the priorities
is it love and modesty or is it throwing a party no one will ever forget
if you want a party have a party if its about the love and the marriage..small intimate affairs often provide the lasting memories
just my two cents...what do i know anywayz :)
