So the definition of insanity is something like repeating the same act over and over and expecting different results
i think this applies to our lives and relationships...people repeatedly try the same unsuccessful things in their relationships and yet are perplexed and vexed when the end result is the same
in order to have harmony sometimes people need to learn to listen and listen with their mouths SHUT...its very hard to allow other people to really look at us and give us criticism...EVERYONE knows that and everyone has been in that situation....i have a friend right now who is very misinformed on many things but you can only tell someone something so many times before you drop it...but when its someone with a more intimate relationship such as a sibling, parent, or lover...its not so easy to just let it go and ignore it
it boils down to whether or not you really want a change, whether or not you really want harmony and peace
if the answer is NO...then i guess keep banging your head against the same wall and expecting a different result....although eventually.....if thats a relationship type situation...one person may just walk away....
people are always willing to compromise and exercise understanding when there is progress or effort exhibited
when its your job...maybe its time for a new start...maybe its happening for a reason
the point is if you want change and you want real genuine change..not just for that moment or for that day...but long term goal....you must be willing to LISTEN and accept criticism...it is NOT easy to realize others dont see us sometimes the way we see ourselves....
its also imperative to choose your words WISELY...in an effort to get your point across....sometimes our words are cold and caustic and do more damage than good
to call someone a liar...that's not something that person will forget and if you feel so NEGATIVELY towards that person why are you with them....its like either get on board and be in it to win it or GET THE HELL OUT THE KITCHEN
this is just the start of 2011 and everyone should be trying new things to make this year a FANTASTIC one...i wish for nothing than for my loved ones to not have drama in their life and for everyone to just find a peace and harmony
i say this all the time and i will say it again
LIFE IS SHORT...dont spend it arguing or being hurtful
we just had an individual die from pancreatic cancer, he was diagnosed in May 2010 and passed last week....and here was this man with a terminal disease and he was still in work making sure "whoever took his place" wouldnt be overwhelmed..if that is not a selfless attitude we all can learn from
we are the captains of our ships and you can either choose to stay in choppy waters or you can have it smooth sailing
from every situation is a lesson to be learned....make sure you are not so caught up in the OTHER things that you miss your lesson
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april janelle
