book review

So last night I started the book THE HELP..it was gifted to be by my mother and with the recent release of the movie she urged me to read it..there is also some history in that my great aunt and my grandmother were THE HELP...The movie looked entertaining and it looked to touch on a subject that YES i was aware of BUT to the extent of the book NO...

So I began reading it and by last night I was hooked..it is a definite page turner ...I became engrossed at the stories of THE HELP or otherwise the great black mammy (sp) and maid...Ive seen Roots and GONE WITH THE WIND but the surreal part about this book is that the story was not so far removed from reality and from current day standing....

I have always been glad I lived in the North and while I LOVE my southern roots my southern roots don't quite compare to Jackson, Mississippi..there is something about the real DEEP south like Ole Miss and South Carolina that is humbling to me...Up north most people hide their hatred or their deep down beliefs and maybe that makes it ok...whereas down south down in those areas ..areas that still in 2011 are still segregated in many ways and still have separate proms and such...the BLATANT and BOLD hatred scares me and makes me ask WHAT or HOW FAR WILL THEY STILL GO

now do NOT get me wrong or mistake my words I am the first to recognize that while it's easy to point out the hate from the vanilla perspective hate among the chocolate folks runs just as deep

one is no better than the next...

it is sad to watch some of the old movies and read of "how things were" and then to know its STILL that way and not progressing or even to witness first hand racism in 2000s ...well its a sad testament to where we are as a society and how hate can be perpetuated and passed along from generation to generation

kids and babies they dont know hate all they know is play and yet those same kids and babies by the time they are middle school age and actually elementary have become products of their environment and able to repeat the evil and ill words and images they see

is there a solution? i guess be accountable for your family and your kids and if at all possible watch the company you keep..dont condone it...but the bottom line is and not to sound like polly pessimist but i do believe there will always be a certain level of hate and separation....whether its by color, class, has beens or has nots .etc

BUT back to the movie...after reading the book i dont know if i want to see the movie

in the movie there is a lot of smiling..a lot of smiling about a subject that now is near and dear to my heart and a bit of a touchy subject

i have heard accounts that the movie is excellent but gee is this entertainment....some people will walk away and feel like oh that was a MOVIE but the fact that its REAL LIFE and it was the life of my loved ones...it kinda just leaves a bitter taste in my mouth

the fact that there will always be people who hold themselves so far above others or the ignorance that runs rampant .....i am quick to hire people to do services for me...BUT i dont think i ever have treated someone the way they did in the book and the stories..

granted i was raised very differently BUT....

sigh...

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Love is everything it's cracked up to be…It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.

Erica Jong

LOVE

When God gives life that is LOVE

There is no greater love than that a parent has for a child

hence why God loves us so much

I look at that face and all is right with the world

when she smiles there is no amount of tiredness in my body

at night when i want her to go back to sleep and she rests her head on my chest...my heart MELTS and i thank God over and over for her

she may smell like milk lol but she is MY baby

Snorers vs smokers

I don't know who entertain me more snorers or smokers....smokers stink but snorers are QUITE funny
There are different types and classes of snorers
I mean I'm surrounded by them
Even my DOG can snore it up and hers is quite obnoxious too-she gets all up in it
My brothers-well 2 out of 3 and I'm sure the 3rd too considering his health issues are SNORERS!
My middle brother snores like a BEAR-its one of those things you can just sit and watch-you want to put water near him and see how much it shakes
Its loud and consistent
Then the other guy-well he is the mouth open-head back belligerent snorer
He is the guy you don't wanna be next to on the plane train or bus! But he is a repeat public offender-he is the guy you wanna stick lint or something in his mouth for laughs-but beware he wakes with a snarl and wrath

Snorers ALWAYS fall asleep first no matter what situation
They act like they don't KNOW they snore and like its annoying like they don't think it grates on your nerves and makes you potentially want to choke them-heheheheh

Sigh!!! But at least they don't stink!
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adventures in MY world

Where to start……………..

 

So I would like to think I’m not that catty woman and that I have grown a lot from when I first started dating to have a certain level of maturity…

 

Last night I received a text ..initially I thought it was my hubby because he was out so I checked the phone despite the hour

 

Well..it was my ex husband’s current/soon to be ex fiancé/girlfriend

 

I did not recognize the number but I read the text…..long story short..she wanted my opinion on some concerns of hers and felt being that I was around him and in his life ONCE upon a time, I would be unbiased and honest and probably not judge her the way her family or friends might

 

So throughout the conversation I am discovering he is still drinking until he is too drunk to drive (that was a HUGE issue for me-which is why I don’t mind a social drink here and there but I have NO tolerance for what I consider excessive drinking) *Josh says it’s judgmental since I am not a over indulger, but I feel like as adults know your limit and don’t take every chance to show your ass or prove how much you can drink..the only one impressed is YOU!!!

 

Apparently he is STILL a cheater-to which she wanted to know if I thought he would ever change…I just had the talk with my bestie today and we both agree to her point..people don’t change..you can modify your behavior but you don’t change..case in point..once an alcoholic ALWAYS an alcoholic whether you are sober for 10, 15, 40 years!

 

What I find funny is that when I met him, he was a shy very respectful guy who barely could put together a matching outfit and thought it was okay to mix 3+ colognes together…very much not the GQ model..yet very much NOT the Target model…

Well now this guy thinks he is Dirk Diggler and is quite the busy body

 

As I am listening to this poor lady pour her heart out to me a stranger and one who by design she should dislike or something…I just felt bad for her…I was strong enough to see the issues and know it was not going to be my life and a fight I wanted and walk away but she is so very “in love” and blinded right now

 

She told me she is done, the issues are way too many..I wish her luck like I would anyone else…happiness is not to be compromised..life is too short to spend it with tears in your eyes…..

 

It made me realize why I have no regrets or qualms about my choice to walk away and find happiness and true love and trust and respect

 

I did wonder later –WHY/HOW she still has my phone #

 

 

On a funnier note..I had to go to the DMV today and let me just say if you want speedy service go when you are 9 months pregnant..you hop the entire line..no old person or handicapper is coming between you and the front of the line and that was without asking or requesting

 

#2-screw you VA DMV for not allowing me to smile on the photo anymore

Now I will be stuck with a busted ass photo until…..

 

Monday morning thoughts

Yesterday I attended the wake of a co workers wife. Nicest guy ever-not that it makes a difference but they went in to check on one issue and it snowballed into more and long story short she didn't come home. Last week I buried my grandfather. What is my point?
Well as we go fresh into this new week I just want to put on everyones hearts and in the back of your minds to remember tomorrow is NOT promised
Don't wait til tomorrow to show or share your love
I'm not encouraging wreckless abandon and doing everything by the seat of your pants BUT when it comes to matters of the heart think less and act more
Some relationships come and go but always tell those you love that you love
Never make people wonder
Always go back for one more hug one more kiss
Lay in bed just a little longer
Because like my coworker said he reached over the next morning and she wasn't there-you dont/cant get those moments back
To all that know me and love me-thank you for being in my life and thanks for always putting a smile or in some cases a frown but for always being there

Happy monday

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It's been a long time

I would like to start off by saying I completely appreciate the runners and bikers on the parkway this morning working out and working out hard…to the gentleman..there is nothing better than some skin and sweat on my drive to work and to the chicks-I appreciate the motivation and for making me want to hit the trails again and rock the tiny shorts and the little sports bra!! We can find encouragement in many areas of life..

 

 

So all hail the wonderful Friday!! I am winding down and ready to head to my new digs!!! I will attach a photo of the world’s cutest yet most spoiled dog..she has been rolling with her Dad today so I know she is losing her mind…her Ray time is EXTRA special and the funny part is I don’t ever find them doing anything out the ordinary so what gives!!

 

Yesterday was the longest day, I am extra sleepy lately but hey surprise surprise when you are carrying a little human it can tire you out…

 

I want to give another special tribute to my DH. Yesterday he left work to run some errands and being the most terrific individual that he is..when he came back to get me from work..gg was detailed and fragranced with the most yummy scent ..VANILLA!!!

 

That’s how to make a lady smile, it’s the little things we can do to show someone that we care and that we listen and show how important they are to us

 

What else has been going on,,,I am just going to ask..is there or is there NOT bathroom etiquette….if there are 4 stalls in a ladies bathroom …if I am in the very end stall…should you NOT go into one of the further two and NOT the two next to me???

 

Is it so hard to look and make sure all your deposit is GONE?

 

Are there rules about talking to people who are not your BFF while you are trying to use the bathroom?

 

And not be to graphic..BUT I am positive there are rules about making noises in the work bathroom…

 

I didn’t really have much to say but I wanted to make sure my blog still worked..

 

Hopefully more thoughts to share later

 

Quick question

Why are male smokers fingers always so damn ashy?

I'm in the car inspection line and the guy next to me has the most cryptic looking dark fingers.

Smoking is nasty! I am so shocked people still do it. I mean keep gambling with your life-and the people who will pay in the long run are only your loved ones

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