blogging by popular demand

so people are starting to find out around here that i am now MRS CRUMP-i guess i feel more modest about it this time instead of shouting it from the roof tops...i am very excited BUT i think now i dont always want to create a fuss and have people ooing and aahing over me...and yet im the person who AWWW"s to babies and engagements...

i think i like to be the fuss-er and not the recipient unless its my family or those in my intimate circle

so its almost my first full week if being a married lady-wahooooo

ok but back to my favorite topic-i have some new finds -some new loves

#1Two leaves and a bud-Jasmine pearl tea-can you say YUM-it tastes just like the tea at the authentic Chinese restaurants-oh my !!!!

#2-I was never a fan of Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream because I always felt obligated to my Haagen Dazs BUT R and I got some yesterday-i have not tasted it yet but man i am EXCITED

#3-Haagen Dazs-Five ice cream-WHY do they have a flavor called Brown Sugar-i mean are they in my head!!! it makes no sense-i cant find it yet but WOW

so i am going to attempt to do some P90x yoga today-i have not worked out in like 3 months and man oh man it is so evident everyday in everything i do

i want to be healthy this year-i am gearing up for a fabulous year full of lots of love and family time...great things on the horizon!!!

Mama's got a brand new ...NAME!!

SO this is day 4 of being Mrs. April Janelle Crump!!!

I can't say it feels different but it does feel amazing. I feel like we are well on our way now. I feel now as an honest woman-that people aren't looking at me like "OH you are living in SIN"-heheheh

I know its different nowadays and the reasons people co-habitate are different and the stigma has changed but anywho

soooo
the wedding was everything i wanted and needed...i got to new york and i had all these ideas of what i wanted for my SIMPLE/CLASSIC day and come to find out that is the same court house my parents got their wedding license from-love it!!!

but the night before i was on the brink of meltdown-not quite bridezilla although im sure some may object BUT my guardian angel swooped in took my keys-held up lines and other people's appointments to ensure that i was able to take care of all i needed in order to be fabulous for the next morning!!! and to properly seal my evening-I had a Hawaiian Martini-sigh!!!

The day was snowy and very picturesque- I would not have changed a thing! My blue shoes were fab-my Dad dyed them for me and then I added shoe clips-they just popped and made me feel like a sassy princess!

SO now I am basking in the glow and next week is the honeymoon :)

I feel like I should have a lot to write in my blog-I guess my few weeks off have gotten me out of practice-hmmm

sooo this is the new year-new start

im starting the P90X so I can commit to a better body this year!!! I am changing my eating habits and cut out the sweets well maybe just go back to eating in moderation

hmmmm
ok i guess i didnt really feel like sharing today because my thoughts arent flowing

oh but i moved back to my old desk-when i started at my new job i started off at one desk but because of an employee personality flaw she got moved to the quieter seat ie MINE and i had to go sit in the noise-SO when i started i had a brand new desk with nice clean stuff and man oh man when i got back to it today-its SO nasty-
NOW as a germapohobe i have bleached and CLOROX'd and I still dont feel quite comfortable-
like seriously WTF is this in my keyboard-i have been spraying and airblowing and there is STUFF in the keys-YUCK!!! people aught to be ASHAMED!!!!!

ok so I have a few days this week then HONEYMOON-i know i may have mentioned that already BUT i am excited-more days of sleeping late and just having one on one with my husband and without his mistress-MS NFL!!!!! haahah


I think too this time around-I am more appreciative of my husband-YES i just got married BUT im in a totally different place and my perspective has changed as well as my outlook
i look at this as a team effort-i look at everything i do needs to either support or aid my marriage or i dont need to do it..
the big thing for me is my tone and my sometimes overly sharp tongue-a big negative before ...i have learned when you love someone you dont try to hurt them with your words even when you are angry..words and tones DO hurt and you cant take them back..
its VERY easy when we are hurt to lash out and you can't take that stuff back...so my challenge to myself is to take the time to stop breath and respond in a manner that says i am spending the rest of my life with this man and my words should reflect that

there are just more responsible ways to express any concerns or my feelings!

i have come to realize that sometimes people will never see eye to eye but its important to be respectful and mindful of the other persons feelings NO MATTER what im thinking
as long as im not in danger-i need to put the other persons feelings first

so many things i did before that i know now is not ok and was purely destructive

i want a happy loving growing relationship/marriage and just like with any skill you must spend time and focus time on cultivating the marriage/relationship...i like the example of football...the players spend hours and days and months practicing just to play in their games...that's pure entertainment...don't we want to put the same effort energy into the most important thing in our world

because if you dont you will get cut from the team or be like the Lions with the horrible stats

so you can make the best out of a situation...when there is a disagreement instead of stewing and trying to think of retribution why not think of ways to fix it and avoid having it happen again

just a few of my own lessons ive learned and i hope that with those and other ones i can ensure i have a long satisfying marriage with a wonderful man

I love this!!!

the NEW Crump's

aftermath

so its the day after-although i've requested a do over because of some small issues

ok let me just say i was overwhelmed by all the love and warmth i received yesterday-thank you thank you!!!

let me just share a few things i am LOVING right now
#1-the new Boyz II Men album-its called LOVE and its a remake of some classic stuff like IRIS by Goo Goo Dolls-AMAZED-done by man artists-I CANT MAKE YOU LOVE ME by Bonnie Raite-the album is a good album AND there is WHEN I FALL IN LOVE AGAIN-feat Michael Buble!!!!

#2-Sex Therapy-I did not get Robin Thicke's last album BUT SEX THERAPY is hot-i'm loving it and endorsing it-not for sex but as a good CD to sip wine and potentially have sex to if all the other stars are aligned!!

#3-A-keys-i didnt get her last album and honestly i picked a few songs off this one-BUT Try sleeping with a broken heart is FAB-ok nevermind i like the album-i got like 8 songs and i love all of them

#4-for those of you who are SEAL fans-he has a greatest hits album out-i endorse this one as well


sooo what's on my little mind today..hmmmm

im trying to not become overwhelmed by all that i have going on-its so easy to get caught up in trying to take care of the TO DO list that you forget to smell the roses-i'm supposed to be watching my Christmas specials every night-i mean that is not a big request-i missed the tree lighting because of travel conflicts but man-soon enough 8 days to be exact all the magic will be gone for another year-im not ready for that-i would love to just be back in my footed pajamas and out of school staying up late with not a care in the world-..........well maybe not i love the adult life-BUT just the carelessness is enviable in kids

sigh....i cant wait to get home next week even though its only for a few days..i miss the family and my partner in crime and eating.....alas what to do

ok i guess i will surf the net now-im finished with my work for now....

one more day

so tomorrow is the big day-yup my birthday.....

very happy and thankful for another year but there is something about not being 6 when the world just seems to STOP for you and its like your day is a national holiday!!

for example tomorrow i'm coming to work-why dont they GIVE me the day off-they should..if i want it off i have to use my leave-when there really should be BIRTHDAY leave or something

im also still stuck on the idea and the memory of wasn't i JUST in high school-weren't Courtney Kellee and I just sitting around deciding what we were wearing to prom..
boy how our lives and conversations have changed.
our relationships with our mom's is closer and the dynamics and topics are different-it's crazy

man we were just trying to push the envelope and having our moms call each other to confer whether they were going to let us do something

and even further werent' we just at Regina's at Someplace Special getting our hair pressed and our snake braids and shirley temple curls and zig zag parts!!!

when did everything change and why do most things still feel the same?

is there a point where you age but when nothing drastic happens you still feel the same..or why is it that my Mom still looks and seems the same to me and that she hasn't aged..

as i sit here today knowing that YES i am older because i can look at my cousins who are 17 & 19 and i can do a whole lot that they can not--i guess in a sense my age has changed because i have all the perks of being i guess what i will call grown

i can have sex without hiding it, i can get married with no one telling me how young i am, i can have a child without anyone flinching, i can buy a car, buy a house, vote, buy liquor (if i wanted), i can stay up late and have myself to blame, i guess being an adult is cool-lots of perks but lots of responsibilities

hmmmm so tomorrow-yes i will be another year older-i dont feel it but im grateful for the gift of another year and i can be hopeful as to what this next year will bring me and my life

tis the season

tis the season for love laughter and gifts.....so here i am for once in my 21 years (hehehe) unsure of what to get folks-normally this is my favorite thing to do but this time i am trying to get creative and come up with stuff...i have most people figured out-my Dad however it becoming more and more difficult to shop for

geeez i cant even write in my blog because i am thinking so hard

oh and a sidebar, a slight deviation-i had the BOMB blackened salmon the other night-OMG-when I say it was scrumptious-i am salivating just thinking about it but man oh man SOMEONE put their foot in it!!


yum

trying to hold out on getting my hair done for another week-its still pretty neat but -hmmmmm we'll see-its been up in a pony for a few days now....i will have to get it done for NYC but since that's right after Christmas-decisions decisions