Oh it's been awhile... like 4 months to be exact
Today I woke up just like any other morning and I checked the news on my phone...
i get the important political stuff but i also get the celeb fluffy stuff
so there was something that caught my eye
another celebrity divorce
and for some reason despite my two trips down that road
i always feel such a profound hurt when i see another couple going their separate ways
now before i sound too judgy, i am the first to recognize that sometimes there are reasons
and obstacles that may seem insurmountable or people feel pushed into a corner with no other recourse
i get that, i truly do
but i also think one of the lessons that God has allowed me to learn from my losses is just how fragile and how much work are required of relationships and marriages are the supreme relationship
its meant to be forever and transcend hurt feelings, seasonal change, loss, gain and everything in between
i think whenever i hear about a new divorce i mourn and hurt a little bit for the loss of my marriages
that is NOT to be confused with REGRET because I am where i am and who i am because of those losses
they have changed me to the core and changed my capacity and understanding of love and relationships
as a newlywed now i have a more refined understanding of fighting for and protecting my marriage
in the past i didnt recognize and have the tenacity and grit to dig in and fight on the days when you may not want to look at that person let alone share a word
now i plant seeds of forgiveness and understanding and compassion DAILY
its not just good enough to forgive once, you have to forgive over and over and over and over
AND OVER
and sure there may be days when that person gets ON YOUR NERVES (and boy does he)
but then i remember what a PEACH i can be and i realize that's balance and that's LOVE
so while the news came today of one couple calling it quits..
there was another couple -LL Cool J and his wife Simone that celebrated 22 years
within the realm of celebrities and public figures, what is it that causes some to fail while others somehow someway still thrive and defy the statistics
What grounds some
what destroys others
so that was my thought of the day.....
a drink for one and a prayer for another
