amidst all of the many exciting experiences I had on my Monday and Tuesday with the Police and Fire Department
i am never far away from relationship thoughts and inspiration
so i was listening to one of the firemen who was saying he was getting married
and one of the guys said hey didn't you guys just meet
and that is when things got interesting
this guy sat and began to explain or rationalize his relationship
i was a tad floored and i know that its in good fun and yes our friends will always ask questions BUT today it made me think
why do we feel the need to "explain" our relationships to other
it's almost like we need to justify to someone else the decision we make
or maybe it's again others wanting to impose their own choices and way of thinking on to someone else
i really wanted the guy to say "because this works for us"
a relationship starts with TWO and very true it branches out to others and becomes a larger circle but the immediate and the core is between the two
i was discussing with a coworker and we cited another example..couples with matching tattoos
that becomes a very quick "oh i would never" response from most people and every time i hear that i think
THEN DON'T
but who are you to make a statement which is borderline rude to someone who did get the adorable *cough cough* matching tattoos
i hear so many people the moment they talk about a new gf/bf begin to EXPLAIN the person
and i just wonder WHY is it we do that
is it the pressure to please others or to try to show others that we make good decisions and choices
beyonce and jay z -outside of their musical influence i look at the way they have managed and balanced their relationship under the public scrutiny
they control what you see and what you know
and for MANY years they never even confirmed the actual relationship VS other celebs who can't wait to pop into the front of the camera lense
i have a great deal of respect for the privacy they keep in their relationship vs say KIM and KANYE who leave no mystery to them and their relationship
they are eager to let it ALL play out on a reality tv show
so i am curious why do we defend our relationships
if it is supposed to originate and grow from the two
its nice when we receive the approval of those closest to us but if the core is not happy or sturdy then the external relationship approval is secondary
