Today's blog is stolen from my daily devotion and I think it will hit home for so many
Relationships are the very foundation of who we are and our lives
They require constant tuning and attention..much like an expensive sports car.. You do not save up for a Porsche or Ashton Martin and then put regular unleaded fuel in it and expect it to run like its meant.
Another way to think about our relationships is in the analogy of sports...atheletes do not just show up on game day and expect to play their best. NO they practice and constantly tweak their approaches and hone their skills
why would you think a relationship or a marriage would be any different
its not good enough to just get on the team
why would you think a relationship or a marriage would be any different
its not good enough to just get on the team
you have to show up and be in it to win it EVERYDAY
what you did to get the person-keep doing that but continue to add more to your rapport
The Lions don't use the same formations and techniques year after year...they review tape and they look for ways to get better and to strengthen their defense and offense and a marriage is much the same
you need to always work on your defense..which is ensuring you are doing what you have to do to keep away temptation and other negatives that want to destroy your marriage as well as working on the offense which is listening to and learning your spouse
it is not listening to them once and thinking you got them
its always listening and always learning
communication is an evolving and constant thing
its not a one time effort
you can always spot the couples with poor communication skills
it is not listening to them once and thinking you got them
its always listening and always learning
communication is an evolving and constant thing
its not a one time effort
you can always spot the couples with poor communication skills
I read an article last night and Will Smith was giving marital advice at a wedding and he said remember to L-U-V
Listen to your wife
Understand your wife
and Validate what your wife is saying
and Validate what your wife is saying
I thought-what a great concept
it's the easiest things that present the biggest challenges
but knowing complacency is the biggest relationship efforts don't you want to work harder..don't you want your marriage to be at the superbowl level
dont you want that level of greatness or are you ok with just being a team
dont you want that level of greatness or are you ok with just being a team
So since I digressed here is the blog...entitled A LITTLE CARE REPAIR
A Little Care Repair
Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body. (Proverbs 16:24, NLT)
Every couple faces communication challenges in their marriage. I’ve learned there is one element necessary for success—caring.
That’s right. It doesn’t matter what communication techniques you may know and understand—if you don’t care, it won’t make a difference.
The actual breakdown of communication in marriage typically begins when attitudes begin to change. For instance, when you first began dating, you had long conversations about your
lives, future, expectations, etc. And things were great! Why? Because you cared! You worked to understand each other and affirm the importance of what the other person had to say. This is one reason you fell in love and became willing to commit in a deeper way to the relationship.
Fast forward into the marriage when communication begins to break down and you’ll find a different story. The lack of faceto-face, meaningful time together combined with sarcastic retorts, eye rolling, negative facial gestures and just a basic lack of caring about what your spouse is feeling or saying will devastate the atmosphere of positive communication.
For your marriage to be successful, you’re going to have to have an open line of communication. For that to happen, you need to feel safe enough to share your thoughts and feelings with each other. That will only take place if you feel as though the other person really cares.
Caring is communicated by eye contact, a positive countenance, providing positive feedback as your spouse shares, valuing his or her input, and simply doing anything you can to let them know you care. Also, as you care about your partner, it will become easier to understand the opposite sex. It’s really not that hard to figure out the person you are married to if you really care about him or her. However, if you don’t have personal concern for each other, your marriage can quickly become a dark mystery with danger at every turn.
Talk It Out | Have you communicated lately how much you care about each other? Are you experiencing a breakdown in communication because of some of the negative traits listed above? If so, talk about ways to make positive changes in these areas.
Walk It Out | Show your spouse how much you care by making eye contact and giving positive feedback during your next conversation.
A Little Care Repair
Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body. (Proverbs 16:24, NLT)
Every couple faces communication challenges in their marriage. I’ve learned there is one element necessary for success—caring.
That’s right. It doesn’t matter what communication techniques you may know and understand—if you don’t care, it won’t make a difference.
The actual breakdown of communication in marriage typically begins when attitudes begin to change. For instance, when you first began dating, you had long conversations about your
lives, future, expectations, etc. And things were great! Why? Because you cared! You worked to understand each other and affirm the importance of what the other person had to say. This is one reason you fell in love and became willing to commit in a deeper way to the relationship.
Fast forward into the marriage when communication begins to break down and you’ll find a different story. The lack of faceto-face, meaningful time together combined with sarcastic retorts, eye rolling, negative facial gestures and just a basic lack of caring about what your spouse is feeling or saying will devastate the atmosphere of positive communication.
For your marriage to be successful, you’re going to have to have an open line of communication. For that to happen, you need to feel safe enough to share your thoughts and feelings with each other. That will only take place if you feel as though the other person really cares.
Caring is communicated by eye contact, a positive countenance, providing positive feedback as your spouse shares, valuing his or her input, and simply doing anything you can to let them know you care. Also, as you care about your partner, it will become easier to understand the opposite sex. It’s really not that hard to figure out the person you are married to if you really care about him or her. However, if you don’t have personal concern for each other, your marriage can quickly become a dark mystery with danger at every turn.
Talk It Out | Have you communicated lately how much you care about each other? Are you experiencing a breakdown in communication because of some of the negative traits listed above? If so, talk about ways to make positive changes in these areas.
Walk It Out | Show your spouse how much you care by making eye contact and giving positive feedback during your next conversation.
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